For the Love of Ray J is a dating show

Dating game show

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 on VH1

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 featuring hip hop

Hip hop music

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 singer Ray J

Ray J

William Ray Norwood Jr. , better known by his stage name Ray J, is an American singer, songwriter, record producer and actor.-Early life:...

. The program has a format similar to Flavor of Love

Flavor of Love

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, I Love New York

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, and Rock of Love. One source notes that it "will be produced by the same geniuses" as those shows, 51 Minds. In reference to the series, Ray J said:

The show, which premiered on February 2, 2009, follows Ray J and his entourage of female suitors to the hottest hangouts in Los Angeles, to Sin City where they’ll party with his famous friends, and to Ray’s childhood home where they’ll meet his family and older sister Brandy

Brandy Norwood

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. Ray J will pour his heart out to these women in hopes that he can figure out who is really there for him. Each week the ladies will attempt to win over Ray J as he carries on with his life in the spotlight. In the end, the girls who can’t keep up with Ray J’s jet-setting ways will be sent packing. But the one who can impress his friends and family and make Ray J believe that love exists, will win the ultimate prize—the love of Ray J.

According to one commentator, the concept of the show involves pampering the contestant

Contestant

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s with "upscale trips throughout the series" and "Ray J's so in love that he's already given participating girls names like Cashmere, Unique and Hot Cocoa."

Contestants

Nickname	Real Name	Age	Eliminated	Reason For Nickname
Cocktail	Joanna Hernandez	26		She works part-time as a cocktail waitress
Unique	Danielle Pastorino	23		The girls felt that her personality was very unusual
Danger	Monica Leon	21		She has a tattoo of a tiger on her face and Ray J felt that she was dangerous
Chardonnay	Christa	22		Her favorite drink is Chardonnay Chardonnay Chardonnay is a green-skinned grape variety used to make white wine. It is originated from the Burgundy wine region of eastern France but is now grown wherever wine is produced, from England to New Zealand...
Feisty	Elizabeth Mendez	22		Her feisty personality
Cashmere	Leah	23		Ray J thought she had nice skin so he said he wanted to wear her as a scarf
Lil Hood	Chelsey Fatula	21		The girls felt that she was a little hood, but in a cute way
Stacks	Summer	24		The girls said she had a big butt
Caviar	Elizabeth	21		She was born and raised in Russia Russia Russia or , officially known as both Russia and the Russian Federation , is a country in northern Eurasia. It is a federal semi-presidential republic, comprising 83 federal subjects...
Stilts	Sharee	26		She's very tall
Genuine	Jillian	25		The girls felt that she was acting very genuine
	Jerri	21		Ray J said her look was explosive
Naturalle	Keyonna	24		Her breasts are all natural
Hot Cocoa	Ja'Wanna	30		Ray J felt that she could warm him up inside

Contestant Notes:

• Joanna "Cocktail" was on the first season of The Bad Girls Club
  The Bad Girls Club
  Bad Girls Club is an American reality television series created by Jonathan Murray for Oxygen. The show centers on seven mischievous and rebellious women from different backgrounds and personalities who have a number of psychological and behavioral problems. They are introduced to the show to...
  
  . In episode 16, she was brought on the show and stayed for the remaining 6 episodes.
• Stacks withdrew from the competition because of family matters.
• Lil' Hood left because she felt she was being disrespected.
• Cashmere withdrew from the competition because she couldn't handle it anymore
• Danger was asked to leave by Ray J because he feared for her health and safety, as well as that of himself and the other contestants.

Call-out order

#	|Contestants	|Episodes
	1	2	3	4	5	6	7	8	|11
1		Danger	Danger	Chardonnay	Cashmere	Cashmere	Unique	Cocktail	Cocktail	Cocktail	Cocktail
2	Cashmere	Caviar	Cocktail	Cocktail	Chardonnay	Chardonnay	Danger	Chardonnay	Unique	Unique	Unique
3	Caviar	Cocktail	Chardonnay	Danger	Cocktail	Cocktail	Chardonnay	Danger	Danger	Danger
4	Chardonnay	Unique	Feisty	Stacks	Danger	Danger	Feisty	Unique	Chardonnay
5	Cocktail	Feisty	Unique	Unique	Feisty	Feisty	Cocktail	Feisty
6	Danger		Cashmere	Feisty	Lil' Hood	Unique	Cashmere
7	Feisty	Lil' Hood	Stacks	Lil' Hood	Stacks	Lil' Hood
8	Genuine	Stacks	Stilts	Cashmere	Unique	Stacks
9	Hot Cocoa	Stilts	Lil' Hood	Caviar	Caviar
10	Lil’ Hood	Genuine	Caviar	Stilts
11	Naturalle	Cashmere	Genuine
12	Stacks	Chardonnay
13	Stilts	Naturalle
14	Unique	Hot Cocoa

The contestant won Ray J's love.

The contestant went on a group date with Ray J.

The contestant went on an individual date with Ray J.

The contestant was eliminated.

The contestant quit the competition.

The contestant won a date with Ray J, but was eliminated.

The contestant was eliminated at the beginning of the elimination ceremony.

The contestant won a date with Ray J, but quit the competition.

The contestant was going to receive a glass, but quit the competition.

The contestant lost a challenge, but got to join the winning team on the date due to Ray J's choice.

The contestant was eliminated outside of the elimination ceremony.

• Episode 4 Ray J told the girls that everyone was safe except Caviar; names are alphabetical.
• Episode 5 Because Stacks and Lil Hood quit, Ray J did not eliminate any of the remaining girls; names are alphabetical.
• Episode 6 Ray J told Cashmere that she could pick up the glass if she wanted to stay, but she could not handle the pressure and left.
• Episode 9 Ray J said that he needed to meet the girls' parents before he could make a decision.
• Episode 10 was a recap episode.
• Episode 11 Ray J decided to eliminate Unique and he chose to pick Cocktail.
• Episode 12 This was a reunion show. Ray J and Cocktail are going to try to maintain a relationship.

A Tall Glass of Chardonnay

First aired February 2, 2009

• Bottom Three: Naturalle, Hot Cocoa, Chardonnay
• Eliminated: Hot Cocoa, Naturalle

Episode Notes

• Ray J's godsister Lil B will help him make the decisions along the way.
• Chardonnay does the splits for Ray J in front of everyone and he almost eliminates her, because he thought she was too forward with her sexual side.
• Ray J gives the girls glasses of champagne.

Reasons For Elimination

• Naturalle: Ray J felt that she was there more for her acting career, than trying to be with him
• Hot Cocoa: Ray J felt that she didn't make an effort to get to know him

Video Thrilled the Radio Star

First Aired February 9, 2009

• Challenge: Video Thrilled
• Challenge Winners: Danger, Cocktail, Chardonnay
• Bottom Three: Atomic Bomb, Caviar, Genuine
• Eliminated: Atomic Bomb, Genuine

Episode Notes

• During the video chat challenge, Chardonnay made herself a human banana split, with her putting the ice cream over her body, doing the split, and eating a banana.
• The challenge winners were automatically picked first by Ray J to stay in the house longer.

Reasons for Elimination

• Atomic Bomb: Ray J felt that she didn't open up to him.
• Genuine: Ray J felt that she was confusing him, first she saying she didn't like being in front of the camera, later mentioning she wanted to be an actress.

The Foxes are Feuding

First aired February 16, 2009 (2.254M viewers)

• Guest Star: Tommy Davidson
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  Tommy Davidson is an American comedian, film and television actor.Born in Washington, D.C., Davidson was adopted when he was 2-years-old. He was a child of an interracial adoption, with his parents being Caucasian and he being African-American. He attended high school at Bethesda-Chevy Chase High...
  
  
• Challenge: Foxy Feud

Divas: Lil Hood, Feisty, Chardonnay, Cocktail, Caviar

Darlings: Danger, Unique, Cashmere, Stilts, Stacks

• Challenge Winners: Darling/Conservative Girls
• Captain Winner: Stilts
• Bottom 2: Stilts & Caviar
• Eliminated: Stilts

Episode Notes
Ray J has the girls play a game called "Foxy Feud" which is a parody of Family Feud

Family Feud

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Reasons for Elimination

• Stilts: Ray J found out that she is still legally married.

There's Something about Larry

First Aired February 23, 2009

• Guest Star: Big Boy (of Power 106), Willie Norwood
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  William Raymond Norwood, Sr. known as Willie Norwood is an American Gospel singer and has been involved in singing since early childhood. His father and mother sang in the church choir...
  
  
• Challenge: Motown competition
• Winners: Lil Hood, Cashmere, Cocktail
• Eliminated: Caviar

Episode Notes

• While Ray J was serenading Cocktail on their solo date, Cocktail started tearing up, realizing that Ray J might have a connection with her and Cocktail starting to fall in love with him.
• Ray J was suspicious about Caviar talking on the phone with Larry so he called in and found out the real truth.

Reason For elimination

• Caviar: Ray J found that Larry managed 395 girls around the world and found that Caviar is here only for exposure.

The Squeaky Wheel Gets the Oil

First Aired March 2, 2009 (2.434M viewers)

• Guest Star: Jack Mosley
• Challenge: Boxing Competition (Pink vs. Blue)

Pink Team: Lil Hood, Cocktail, Danger, Chardonnay

Blue Team: Feisty, Stacks, Unique, Cashmere

• Challenge Winners: Pink Team, Feisty
• Challenge Losers: Blue Team (except for Feisty)
• Quit: Stacks, Lil' Hood

Episode Notes

• Ray let Feisty go on the date because the rest of her team quit the challenge and she was the only one to participate, and win, before they quit. He felt her teammates were unfair.
• Stacks left the competition due to family matters and Ray understood
• Lil' Hood left because she felt she was being disrespected.

Bad Girls, Bad Girls Whatcha Gonna Do?

First aired March 16, 2009 (2.701M viewers)

• Challenge: Show Ray something each girl is passionate about so he can get to know them better.
• Challenge Winner: Feisty and Unique
• Withdrew: Cashmere

Reason For withdrawal

• Cashmere: Cashmere felt the pressure amongst the other girls coming back on her for outing Cocktail's involvement in 6 episodes of The Bad Girls Club
  The Bad Girls Club
  Bad Girls Club is an American reality television series created by Jonathan Murray for Oxygen. The show centers on seven mischievous and rebellious women from different backgrounds and personalities who have a number of psychological and behavioral problems. They are introduced to the show to...
  
   (later in the first season, credited as Joanna Hernandez, a golddigger, which Ray forgave as part of Cocktail's past) built up to a level that was too much for her to handle. The wine glass was there for the taking, but Ray was not about to pick it up and hand it to her, and she couldn't bring herself to take it, which qualifies as a voluntary withdrawal.

Rock and Roll All Night, and Feisty Every Day

First aired March 23, 2009 (2.346M viewers)

• Challenge: The Norwood Kids Foundation Pancake Challenge.
• Challenge Winner: Cocktail, Chardonnay, Unique
• Bottom 2: Unique, Feisty
• Eliminated: Feisty

Reason for Elimination

• Feisty: Ray J felt that Feisty was just a party girl and was always drunk.

To Tell the Truth

First aired March 30, 2009

• Guest Star: Brandy
  Brandy Norwood
  Brandy Rayana Norwood , known professionally as Brandy, is an American singer-songwriter, producer, actress, and dancer. In 2009, she introduced her rap alter-ego Bran'Nu....
  
  
• Challenge: Lie Detector Test
• Challenge Winner: Chardonnay
• Bottom 2: Danger, Chardonnay
• Eliminated: Chardonnay

Reason for Elimination

• Chardonnay: Ray J felt that she was more of a friend than a potential love interest

Episode Notes

• For the solo date, Ray J took Chardonnay to a strip club where she showed him some of her moves.

Smashing Homies

First aired April 6, 2009 (3.164M viewers)

• Guest Stars: Tom Green
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  , Shorty Mack
  Shorty Mack
  Derrelle Owens , better known by his stage name Shorty Mack, is a rapper and actor. He has put an album out under jvc/vertex 96 [hard 2 tame me] appeared on numerous recordings by Ray J, including the Knockout remix of "Formal Invite" and the Smokin' Trees version of "What I Need". Also did he...
  
  , Warren G
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  Warren G , is an American West Coast rapper and hip hop producer. He is also Dr. Dre's half-brother.His biggest hit is the song "Regulate" with Nate Dogg released in 1994...
  
  , Noel "Detail" Fisher, Willie Norwood
• Eliminated: None

Episode Notes

• No one gets eliminated. Ray is waiting to meet each girl's family before he makes an elimination.
• Willie Norwood makes a second appearance in the show.

Clip Show

First Aired April 13, 2009
Never Seen Clips

• Chardonnay, Cocktail and rest of the girls Partying.
• More of what happened in the video thrilled challenge
• Stilts and Ray J went to an studio recording.
• Feisty Partying and drinking, Chardonnay teaching Feisty how to do a split.
• Cocktail telling Ray J about the other girls, what they are doing in the house.
• Unique and Danger having the argument.
• Feisty being northern tropical
• Ray J and Chardonnay went to a strip club
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• Tom Green rapping to Ray J about Danger, including the extended remix version of "Danger: She Smashed The Homies."
• Feisty, Unique, Cavier, Danger and Stacks were in the kitchen having a conversation.
• The girls interrupt Ray J's conversations.
• The girls playing "Two Truths and a Lie" with each other, where you have to figure out which of the three statements isn't true.
• Lil'B and the girls imitating each other.
• Unique, Cocktail and Danger cooks food for Ray J and his parents.
• Ray J talks about the final 3 girls for the season finale.

What Doesn't Happen in Vegas, Stays in Vegas

First aired April 20, 2009 (4.22M viewers)

• Disqualified: Danger
• Families: Ray J takes each girl to meet her family.
• Unique's Family: Ray J and Unique went to Cleveland, to see Unique's Family.
• Cocktail's Family: Ray J and Cocktail went to Sacramento
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  , to see Cocktail's Family.
• Dates: Ray J takes each girl on an individual date.
• Unique's Date: Ray J takes Unique to Alizé for her date, and an overnight stay in Ray J's Room.
• Cocktail's Date: Ray J takes Cocktail to Simon's Restaurant for her date, and an overnight stay in Ray J's Room.
• Winner: Cocktail
• Runner-Up: Unique

Episode Notes

• Ray J privately told Danger it was time to go home because he feared for her stability, health and safety.

Reasons for Elimination

• Unique: Ray J felt that she might be a little bit too controlling and meeting her family makes him more nervous like he was expected to be someone he isn't.

Reunion Show

First aired April 27, 2009 (3.753M viewers)
Episode Notes

• Stilts talks about her time on the show and question of her marriage.
• Caviar talks about her time on the show and her photographer, Larry.
• Chardonnay talks about her and Ray J being friends.
• Danger talks about her health and pregnancy rumors.
• Unique talks about her time on the show and eliminating girls she associates with, including Cashmere.
• Cocktail talks about her time with Ray J.

Bonus Clips

• Feisty and Lil Hood talk about their time on the show.

Host: La La Vasquez

Aftermath

On June 10, 2009, Cocktail announced on her MySpace

MySpace

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 page that she and Ray were no longer a couple, and had "not been together for a while now." Two days later, she alleged in an interview that Ray J had hurt her by lying to her about whether there would be a second season of the show, and that the "breaking point" came on tour when she realized that he was still "hooking up" with other girls, but that's when Ray J realized that she was serious about the relationship he was honest with her and told her that it was "not going to work out."

After the show

• Chardonnay and Danger made a guest appearance on the second season
  For the Love of Ray J (season 2)
  For the Love of Ray J 2 is the second season of For the Love of Ray J on VH1. This season Ray J will bring 19 women to see which one is the love of his life.-Contestants:-Call-out order:-That's What's Up:First aired: November 2, 2009...
  
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• Cocktail made an appearance on the For the Love of Ray J (season 2)
  For the Love of Ray J (season 2)
  For the Love of Ray J 2 is the second season of For the Love of Ray J on VH1. This season Ray J will bring 19 women to see which one is the love of his life.-Contestants:-Call-out order:-That's What's Up:First aired: November 2, 2009...
  
   reunion show.
• Lil' Hood (Chelsey), Cashmere (Leah), and Cocktail (Joanna Hernandez) were contestants on the canceled third season
  I Love Money
  I Love Money is an American reality television series airing on VH1, and is a spin-off of Flavor of Love, Charm School, I Love New York, Rock of Love, Real Chance of Love, For the Love of Ray J, Daisy of Love and Megan Wants a Millionaire. Former contestants on these shows compete in physical and...
  
   of I Love Money.
• Feisty (Elizabeth Mendez) competed on the fourth season
  I Love Money (season 4)
  I Love Money 4 or I Love Money is the fourth season of the VH1 reality television series I Love Money, created by Surreal Life executive producers Cris Abrego and Mark Cronin...
  
  of I Love Money, being the only For the Love of Ray J girl. She was eliminated in episode 6. She was also in the music video for Pitbull's "Hotel Room Sevice" in 2009.

External links

• For The Love of Ray J: Cast