2 and a half years ago, I had an abortion. Me and my partner were struggling to make ends meet running the flat we had and everything else on top. Then I found out I was 6 weeks pregnant, we had been using a condom and it split, I had also had a normal period so we had no idea. We spent a lot of time talking about what we were going to do, and in the end decided to have an abortion. We felt that we could give a baby all the love in the world, but thought it was unfair to bring a child into the world, unable to feed and clothe it. On the day of the abortion, I went into hospital and the procedure was done. Afterwards the nurses were not very friendly, they were rude to me and when I asked for more painkillers, I was basically told what else do u expect, all the while I was losing the baby and very emotional. I was never given any comfort from the nurses. At home the next day I was in excruciating pain and my partner drove me straight to hospital where again I was told what do you expect, and given a paracetamol. After the abortion I was never offered any kind of counselling, which I feel is why I feel I have never got over it and it affects me everyday. If I had of had a one night stand I would understand them being funny with me, but I was in a 3 year relationship. It was the hardest decision of mine and my partners life and it Will always be in the back of our minds. I just wish I had of been offered at least some support to come to terms with it.

I think that u werent right to have an abortion because there are other ways you could have gotten help. there is always a way. but i feel for you and i understand why you did what u did and i hope that things are going well for you now

Abortion is not the right choice when you have an unwanted pregnancy; however, what is done is done. You show remorse which is normal. You had some other bad experiences with some bad treatment. Kindness was called for as well as counseling. I am sorry to hear that some folks didn't take the opportunity to reach out to you.

Please don't continue to beat yourself up for what you did when you were under terrible pressure and thought you had to do this. . Ask God to forgive you and then realize that HE WILL forgive you completely. Then...you must forgive yourself. Best of luck and love to you.

I might add that I have never known someone who had an abortion and felt right afterwards.

Hi you didn'ent have an abortion your baby did
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It doesn't matter if your poor that baby would still grow up to love you. Your complaining about the pain but what about the baby the baby has excruciating pain.

Your just trying to make yourself feel good. yOU'LL feel better if you just except that you did something bad.

I think YOU need to get over YOURSELF. I can see being religious has made you a kind, understanding person. Christ almighty.

There is no reason for you to feel the way you do. You decided to do what you thought was the right thing for the situation and it was done. Once over with you should have been given counseling although that would have been better before the abortion. Those nurses treated you the same as they do when a drug addict goes into the hospital. They were wrong. I have served as chaplain in our local hospital and seen what you are describing but I always step in and set up a counseling session before the woman leaves to let her know that while I would not have counseled her to make the decision she made there is still acceptance for her from GOD. If you are concerned along those lines don not be since you can settle this with GOD knowing that HE forgives everything we do if we approach HIM with our concerns.
If your concerned about the reactions of society just remember there are no sinless people.

Hi...I am going to be as honest with you as i possibly can.I personally do not like abortions but this is my opinion nd has nothing to do with why you did what you did.But i will say this much...There are no excuses when it comes to having abortions when two adults willingly lay down and have sex.You two know that there is a chance that you as a woman will get pregnant whether you use a condom or not and i know for a fact that if the two of you have been together 3 years you guys have had unprotective sex at one time or another and based on what you said that the condom split and plus you had your periods tells me that you are not being 100 percent honest but that is irrelevant and once again is my opinion.But i apologize to you for the way the nurses acted towards you but i also believe you may have just felt a little guilty about your decision but anyways,you made your choice and who am i to say whether or not it was right or wrong but what i can say is this was a lesson to be learned from all of this...Be more careful about the choices you make when it involves life,and if you are going to have sex with your partner be more careful with the protection you use or you will find yourself pregnant again.Also if you can't feed a child and neither can your friend then maybe you two made the right choice for the both of you.

I think you need to grow up you immature little crap